Hey there — I'm Chelom.

Professor. Researcher. Writer.

Educator on intimacy, emotion, and connection.

With a background in law, family relationships, and human development, I study how mindfulness, desire, and emotional safety shape our most meaningful relationships. I teach what I learn — through courses, articles, public speaking, and global research.

I currently teach at Brigham Young University, where I focus on healthy sexuality in committed relationships and how mindfulness in sexual experiences can reduce shame, increase connection, and support emotional and physical well-being.

Hey there — I'm Chelom.

Professor.

Researcher. Writer.

Educator on intimacy, emotion, and connection.

With a background in law, family relationships, and human development, I study how mindfulness, desire, and emotional safety shape our most meaningful relationships. I teach what I learn — through courses, articles, public speaking, and global research.

I currently teach at Brigham Young University, where I focus on healthy sexuality in committed relationships and how mindfulness in sexual experiences can reduce shame, increase connection, and support emotional and physical well-being.

Real intimacy starts with feeling safe — emotionally, physically, and spiritually.

What I Do

I educate individuals, couples, and professionals on

how to:

Communicate clearly without shutdowns
Explore desire without shame
Build emotional and physical intimacy that lasts (and actually feels good)

What I Do

I educate individuals, couples, and professionals on how to:

Communicate clearly without shutdowns
Explore desire without shame
Build emotional and physical intimacy that lasts (and actually feels good)

Who My Work Supports:

Couples in long-term relationships who feel more like roommates than partners

Individuals who want intimacy but don’t know how to ask for it

Anyone navigating shame, disconnection, or desire that’s gone quiet

If that sounds like you — you’re not broken. You’re just ready to learn.

Who My Work Supports:

Couples in long-term relationships who feel more like roommates than partners

Individuals who want intimacy

but don’t know how to ask for it

Anyone navigating shame, disconnection, or desire that’s gone quiet

If that sounds like you — you’re not broken. You’re just ready to learn.

Why I Do This

I’ve studied intimacy, emotion, and connection around the world — including as a Fulbright Fellow in Ukraine. But my work is deeply personal, too.

Long before that, I was just curious why intimacy felt so hard — especially for good, loving people.

I realized: we’re not taught how. So now, I teach it — accessibly, shame-free, and backed by research.

Credentials at a Glance:

PhD in Family Science
Assistant Professor of Human Development, BYU
Fulbright Fellow
Author of peer-reviewed studies on mindfulness, desire, and relational well-being
Mom of 8 (yes, 8!)
Married for 31 years — and still learning
Invited speaker, educator, and published researcher

Want to go deeper?

Take the 3-Week Course on Mindful Intimacy
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Credentials at

a Glance:

PhD in Family Science
Assistant Professor of Human Development, BYU
Fulbright Fellow
Author of peer-reviewed studies on mindfulness, desire, and relational well-being
Mom of 8 (yes, 8!)
Married for 31 years — and still learning
Invited speaker, educator, and published researcher